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On Friday afternoon one of my coworkers sent me the link above and wrote something like, “Hey, have you seen this? It’s a little extreme…and perhaps a little creepy, but I thought of you.”

After reading about the “interactive pillows that allow lovers to sleep together — even if they’re separated by continents or oceans,” I’ve determined that it is, indeed, creepy. Another section of the article suggests that the pillow “might make for a delightfully romantic gift on the next anniversary of your long-distance relationship!”

David’s birthday is one week from today, and he will NOT receive this pillow for a gift then or on any future anniversary. No way, José.  

History lesson

My coworker Travis recently asked me if David and I were high school sweethearts. Just moments before this question, I introduced Travis to a Design*Sponge article on Susan and William Brinson, high school sweethearts who jointly attended the Savannah College of Art and Design. Writer Amy Azzarito featured the Brinsons as “just one of those couples that creatively speak the same language.” The article is titled He Said/She Said: Designing Together because the Mr. and the Mrs. each had a chance to answer Amy’s questions about their joint projects and deeply intertwined lives.

David and I constantly recall ways that our lives were connected growing up even though, as I told Travis, we were not high school sweethearts. We also don’t speak the same language like the Brinsons. I speak liberal arts, literature and linguistics while he speaks motors, mechanics and math. This fact happens to work in my favor today because you’re about to get the “she said” version of our story, my friends. Some of these events are a factor of our long-time friendship but many more are a result of us growing up in the same small town. Since I highly doubt David will write a blog to counter my argument here, feel free to find my facts 100 percent accurate.

My first distinct memory of David is from elementary school: conger in your mind an idyllic scene of children out to recess standing near a playground. This is, of course, where my memory takes place but the circumstances were not quite so ideal.

My earliest recollection is actually of David kissing my friend Maggie on the playground. I was one of the girls who formed a circle around the couple, a term best used lightly in this case. All of the girls in the huddle held their mouths agape and eyes wide at this public (school) display of affection. I was not going out with anyone at that time, but I don’t recall being jealous of Maggie and her micro beau. Instead, I remember thinking that David was too short to be my boyfriend anyway. The belief that I need to be taller than the men I court was instilled in me by a long line of long-legged Swanson and Samuelson women and would haunt me for years to come. Luckily, time and puberty did David a few favors and he’s now a little taller than me when I wear flats. I prefer heels, but relationships are about compromise, after all.

Another memory I like to bring up with David is how we ALMOST went to prom together junior year but instead he asked one of his McDonald’s coworkers and repented later. His date proceeded to wear a Playboy bunny necklace to our signature formal event. I went with a genuinely nice guy who we both still speak with today and who I probably know better now than when we sat next to each other in chemistry class. To remedy to his faux pas, David asked me to go to senior prom 11 months in advance only to cancel the engagement because he charmed another girl into being his real girlfriend. I completely understood that he needed to go to the dance with the girl he was dating and appreciated that he found the strength to be upfront with me and discuss the issue through an intimate conversation on MSN Messenger. Somehow, even with this incredible let down, I allowed him to continue speaking to me. And I went stag to the prom.

David’s band Pyrrhic Victory also played in my garage for my 18th birthday party. The band name was inspired by a lesson on the Romans in humanities class, and I hesitantly agreed to let them perform. David had decreed like Caesar himself that I was to have a party whether I wanted one or not because the band needed an audience and my friends would do.

I had a dynamite group of girl friends in high school and the five of us usually hung out with David and his best bud. It took a 5:2 ratio to wrangle their joint machismo into order, but the effort was rewarded because David had the “good house” with a pool table, TV and dartboard in a parent-free land known as the basement. The boys must have had some other redeeming if not appealing qualities back then, but their practical jokes were perturbing. For some reason I was always the target of car wars. Thanks to David and his cronies my Corsica was Saran wrapped in the high school parking lot and slathered in sour kraut, eggs, mayo, dog food, cereal and packing peanuts on multiple occasions. On one instance my car was attacked because I canceled plans with him to go on a date. Can we say “jealousy?”

The problem with David’s technique was that I always knew who did the damage and who to call when I needed help at the car wash. My girlfriends and I, on the other hand, successfully doused the inside of David’s car with a restaurant-sized box of white rice and a nearly toxic bottle of cheap perfume without him finding out for years. We were supposedly the nice girls who would never think of doing a thing like that.

David and I weren’t always so mean to each other and did a pretty good job of entertaining ourselves in the metropolis that is Cannon Falls. Our five-year high school class reunion is coming up this month, and I can’t wait to get the scoop from David on our peers’ lives.

We must be one of many couples who have paired up since the halls of CFHS or who can still claim high school sweetheart status. Much like David and I, my friend Kates is in a relationship with one of our classmates even though the two didn’t date in high school. I guess that’s a family tradition since her parents both graduated from CFHS but also didn’t know each other when they were kiddos. Oh, now that I think about it, the same is true for my parents.

Now, let me distract you from matrimonial presumptions with this:

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David sent me flowers earlier this week for no real reason other than that he still likes me despite my incessant teasing. Oh happy day!

Social Life

Back in the day (circa 2004) I started a Myspace account. I can’t remember when, but I ended up deleting my profile because the account started to make me feel uncomfortable. I had watched one too many Dateline NBC specials on sexual predators, so I decided to part ways with the site. Then in the summer of 2006 I opted to join Facebook: the single most addicting way to connect with friends and commandeer my cool new “freshman in college” status.

Ithaca College suggested that I open a Facebook account in order to meet people before classes began in the fall. I didn’t go crazy stalking my peers or befriending each of the 1,000+ incoming freshman, but instead let friendships develop naturally at the university without the help of social networking. The thing is, Facebook does not mirror natural relationships perfectly. As the video alludes to above, the site can sometimes manufacture friendships and hinder professional connections. Even though I don’t connect with people at whim on Facebook, I could probably go through my list of friends and delete about 60 percent, retaining only those people who I actually speak to now or plan to speak to during the remaining years of my life.

I’m in the mood to go through a Facebook purge. Lately I’ve been wondering why I’m still connected to people I haven’t seen since the 9th grade and the friends-of-friends I met exactly one time during college or my studies abroad. I mean, do I really want all those people seeing photos of me in a swimming suit from this summer? Probably not.

Since I’m becoming disenchanted with my Facebook, it’s hard to imagine investing more of my time in another social networking site. Google+ came on to the scene a few weeks ago, and I was invited by three or four different people to join the site. The invitations served as Google’s attempt to stagger the growth of its new baby and test it for bugs, but Google+ hasn’t exactly achieved the success that the search engine superpower imagined.

I, for example, started my new account quite a few days ago and have completed exactly one task on the site. I uploaded a wonky picture to my profile. The photo needs to be replaced again because my quick Photoshop crop left my head floating in the frame at a weird 45 degree angle and the whole thing looks just odd.

This oddity matches my sentiments toward the site, though. I don’t want to invest more of my energy and attention in this new form of social networking. I already use Facebook, Twitter, and technically this Tumblr is a type of social networking because I follow my blogger friends. I don’t feel like devoting more time to sitting at a computer when that’s what I do all day at work. My allegiance to Google+ is halfhearted, and unless something changes drastically, I’m going to ignore the site even though it has some pretty nifty features.

One perk of Google+ is that users can put people into specific “circles” based on real life relationships. Examples of these relationships include Friends, Family and Coworkers. My very own coworker added his own specialty circle called “Vagrants.” That’s where I’d put the people who come into my life infrequently like the middle school comrades and the meet-and-greet people from college I wrote about earlier.

The problem is that even with a “Vagrant” circle I’d still be digitally connected to people I rarely see and with whom I don’t share common interests. 

Instead, I’d like to go back to the good old days when you had to accidentally run into people at the grocery store who you haven’t seen in years, say a brisk hello/goodbye and walk away wondering why on earth it seemed like a good idea to leave the house without showering even though you only needed to buy one item.

Cora and I share a great memory like this from a summer day years ago when we were assigned the task of giving Emma, our Golden Retriever, a bath. We put on the rattiest clothes we owned, swept our bedhead hair up into disheveled ponytails and filled up the baby swimming pool with water.

Then we realized we were out of dog shampoo.

We jumped in Cora’s super-stylish Pontiac 6000 and headed for town. As we pulled into the EconoFoods parking lot, I can distinctly remember Cora saying, “We’re going in, grabbing the shampoo and running out. Don’t speak to anyone and let’s be quick about it.” Of course as we entered the store we were bombarded by friends from school, 4-H club parents and even a former babysitter. Cora was mortified and I was embarrassed. (I didn’t have as far to fall because I was still in the braces, glasses and no makeup stage.)

This Econo encounter is what I call a true vagrant circle, and it’s especially genuine considering we looked like hobos at the time.

We sulked home, scrubbed the scuzzy puppy and somehow survived without posting our woes on social media by saying, “OMG! So embarrassing! Went to #Econo and saw @BestFriend and @SciencePartner when I looked like $hit.”

And better yet, we got to berate our mom for running out of doggy suds in person rather than by posting it on her Facebook wall. She didn’t really feel bad for us, but maybe that’s because we didn’t get the chance to use an emoticon to express our true feelings. :-(

Link via vanessagene and video by Epipheo Studios.

Here’s a sweet little note from Miss Loreto, one of my oldest friends from college. I’m one lucky gal.

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Friendships can be broken up into many different categories. More and more, I’m beginning to have long-distance friends, the type you play phone tag with for a month, but when you FINALLY catch one another, you chat away for hours. You have your fair weather variety, friends of convenience who conveniently disappear when things get complicated. There are the friends who take you for who you are, the good, the bad, and the ugly. There are the friends who will challenge you to improve yourself. There are the friends you hit it off with immediately, two kindred spirits that understand one another instantly. There are the friends who grow on you, who may take a little longer to comprehend, digest, and appreciate, but you ultimately realize they too are friends. It’s about learning to appreciate people for who they are, and not trying to fit a square into a circle. Having realistic expectations means you won’t ever be disappointed by somebody.

Lessons in Midwestern Living - Part 2

Some of Minnesota’s rural communities are a microcosm for different European countries. My mom grew up in Vasa, a community named for Swedish nobility that still embraces its immigrant founders. Southern Minnesota also features New Prague where Czech names make my tongue fumble around too many consonants.

In much the same way, there are communities that embrace a German, Norwegian, or Polish ancestry.

Midwesterners cling to their roots. One of my favorite things to eat around Christmastime is lefse. It’s a Norwegian flat bread that looks like a tortilla but is made from potatoes and served with butter and sugar. I’m only a smidge Norwegian but there are so many people with Norwegian heritage in my hometown that it’s becoming a tradition of my own.

It’s kind of funny that people choose to identify by their country of ancestry. If I were to flip through my high school yearbook, I’d see a pretty homogeneous bunch physically but most people have unique traditions.

Even so, I feel like my generation is starting to back away from a strong ancestral identity. We’ve moved away from the farms, prairie towns, and city flour mills that our ancestors saw as an opportunity for a better life. As each generation distances itself from the immigrant forefathers we lose the European distinctions and become simply American.

Some days I’m Swedish. Some days I’m Minnesotan. Some days I’m just another priviledged white American. I have a feeling my kids will only be the latter.

“Green Eyes” by Coldplay

Honey you are a rock
Upon which I stand
And I come here to talk
I hope you understand

That green eyes, yeah the spotlight, shines upon you
And how could, anybody, deny you

I came here with a load
And it feels so much lighter, now I’ve met you
And honey you should know, that I could never go on without you

Green eyes

Honey you are the sea
Upon which I float
And I came here to talk
I think you should know

That green eyes, you’re the one that I wanted to find
And anyone who, tried to deny you must be out of their mind

Cause I came here with a load
And it feels so much lighter, since I met you
Honey you should know, that I could never go on without you

Green eyes
Green eyes

Ohohohohooooo
Ohohohohooooo

Ohohohohooooo
Ohohohohooooo

Honey you are a rock
Upon which I stand

I want to be this person for someone. I want to look out for him with my green eyes.